Creating Healthy Boundaries

Creating boundaries isn’t about shutting people out, being selfish, or setting rigid rules about communication with others. Instead, it is a way to effectively get your needs met. Setting healthy boundaries can lead to higher self-esteem, greater respect from others, and a sense of overall well-being. 

Learning how to set clear boundaries may require energy and practice, so set aside some time to reflect on areas of your life that need boundary-setting. Consider your boundaries in the following areas--are they too loose and flexible, or even too rigid?

• Physical and Personal Space

• Time and Energy

• Emotions and Vulnerability

• Culture and Beliefs

• Privacy

What are the important relationships in your life? Do unhealthy boundaries exist with a partner, loved ones, friends, co-workers, or even acquaintances? “Unhealthy” could mean you prefer to please people, struggle to say “NO,” find yourself trapped in conversations where you’re being “talked at” or criticized, overshare in social situations, feel uncomfortable in an unwanted embrace or from someone standing too close, etc.

If you can relate to any of these examples, here are a few ways to change your interactions and start getting what you need:

1. Really get to know yourself. Tap into your sense of what grounds you, your thoughts and emotions, and your inner-wisdom. This sense of self will become a barometer with which to interpret situations where your boundaries get crossed. 

2. Look for warning signs. Create distance from people who invade your space, push your limits, or ask too much of you. 

3. Be OK with changing your mind. Sometimes you may need to change direction or be upfront about your needs, and if you are clear about your request (maybe offer an alternative when cancelling plans with a loved one), proceed without guilt or shame. 

4. Be assertive. Communicate your feelings, thoughts, and needs to others without apologizing. When making a request or saying “No,” use confident body language and tone, connect with the person on the values or emotions behind the ask, and consider ways to negotiate. For tough interactions, plan ahead by playing out the conversation in your mind. 

5. Listen to your gut. Your body will likely give you signs that a boundary is about to be crossed. Your heart rate might increase, you may start sweating, or places like your jaw or stomach might feel tense. 

6. Prioritize self-care time. Whatever you choose to do as a form of relaxation, make sure you engage in it fully. If that means silencing your cell phone, not responding to work emails on the weekends, or letting someone know you need time before answering their question, do so! Having time to “tune out” is vital for your mental and physical well-being. 

References

Brenner, A. (2015). 7 Tips to Create Healthy Boundaries with Others. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/201511/7-tips-create-healthy-boundaries-others

Chesak, J. (2018). The No BS Guide to Protecting Your Emotional Space. Retrieved from https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/set-boundaries#affirming-boundaries

Selva, J. (2018). How to Set Healthy Boundaries. Retrieved from https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/

Healthier Summer Treats

When it’s hot outside and you want to cool down with a frozen treat, you don’t always have to turn to something overly sweetened and processed. We’ve rounded up a few recipes for easy, healthier cold treats made from straightforward ingredients that will nourish your body. 

**In Chinese Medicine it is recommended to eat cold foods in moderation. If you struggle with digestive issues, stick to small amounts or avoid completely. Practice listening to your body and be careful not to overdo it. 

1. Coconut, Cherry, and Vanilla Bean Ice Pops

These creamy pops consist of coconut milk, fresh sweet cherries, vanilla, and small amounts of honey/maple syrup for sweetening. Recipe: https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/coconut-cherry-and-vanilla-bean-ice-pops-3416596

2. Strawberry Frozen Yogurt

If you have an ice cream maker, consider making frozen yogurt as a healthier alternative to ice cream. Fresh strawberries, greek yogurt, and a few other ingredients come together in this simple treat. Recipe: https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/patrick-and-gina-neely/strawberry-frozen-yogurt-recipe-1923540

3. Chocolate Covered Banana Pops

With just three ingredients, this treat couldn’t be easier. Choose an organic dark chocolate and get creative with toppings. We suggest chopped almonds or granola for a nice crunch. Recipe: https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/ellie-krieger/chocolate-covered-banana-pops-recipe-2013098

4. Red, White, and Blue Pops

Put a healthy spin on these traditional pops, which are berry-focused and sweetened with only two tablespoons of honey. Recipe: https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/healthy-red-white-and-blue-frozen-pops-3672242

5. Basil Lemon Ice

If you’re looking for something icy and refreshing, try out this simple treat served in a hollowed out lemon. Recipe: https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/basil-lemon-ice-recipe-2107730

References

https://www.foodnetwork.com/grilling/healthy/photos/healthy-frozen-treats

Benefits of Facial Rollers

You’ve likely seen or heard about the facial roller trend, and you may have even spotted the beedewy rose quartz roller we carry at the clinic, but do you know much about what facial rollers do? 

Facial Rollers have been used since the 1700s by empresses and members of high society in China. They massage the skin on your face, increase circulation, and aid in lymphatic drainage. If your face is swollen or puffy, a facial roller can help move lymphatic fluid away from your eye area and into the proper channels. The cool nature of the stone decreases puffiness and can have a calming effect on stressed skin. Also, a facial roller massage may benefit your skin by releasing hormones associated with stress-reduction and overall well-being, which could curb stress-related breakouts. One final detail is that facial rolling can become a ritual that contributes to ongoing self-care. This relaxing practice might be a great way to strengthen your awareness of the present moment and start off each day with mindfulness. 

How to use:

• Store in the fridge for additional cooling benefits. 

• Use on a clean face. Can also use after a serum, facial oil, or moisturizer for deeper product penetration. 

• Massage gently, so as not to rupture existing acne or inflammation. 

• Starting at the center of your forehead, roll the tool out to your temples. Roll under your eyes and over your cheeks toward your ears. Massage the upper and lower lip areas. Finish by rolling down along your jawline and neck. 

• Wash roller with gentle soap after each use. 

Stop by MKE MindBody Wellness to pick up a beedewy rose quartz roller or to learn more!

References

Brucculieri, J. (2017). We tried Jade Rollers to find out if they’re a total waste of money. Retrieved from https://www.huffpost.com/entry/jade-rollers_n_5a1c56f6e4b0e771d6b7f3a7?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAANhILdvlB4W7JvpQBxfC61LvExUYTOzwKMdwqQPWOWLhK1I2BKpSKQS-oxSPHQLE6CQEJqeZ7E6wRfd5-E0Dxkdmft_s2yvSXdfxNCdV7I6W44PtVBXzEqm7krXBhhnrfZx7LMZFfTV7vQSxeWF7x_Q1Ogr0hB0VYTQH-VViYuxd

Metzger, C. (2018). Do those jade rollers really work, or are they just pretty? Retrieved from https://www.marieclaire.com/beauty/a20637662/jade-face-roller-benefits/