Whether or not you’ve struggled with anxiety in the past, you are likely experiencing an increase in stress, frequent or difficult-to-control worries, feelings of restlessness, racing thoughts, a faster heartbeat, and possibly trouble sleeping. We are in the midst of an extremely uncertain, scary time, and even if you feel like you’re coping pretty well, anxiety is likely creeping in. We want to validate these feelings and experiences, because they make sense given the context we’re living in. In order to slow down racing thoughts and cope with our heightened anxiety, a first step is to take some deep breaths, and label the emotion. Notice what the anxiety feels like, and what it’s doing to your thoughts, daily routine, sleep, etc. Once we call it out for what it is, we can start addressing it.
For many of us, anxiety stays with us throughout the day. Even when it’s time to sleep and rest, we have trouble “turning off” our minds. Is this something you’re dealing with? You desperately want to fall asleep, but anxious thoughts and worries keep you awake? If so, here are some ideas of ways to cope with anxiety at bedtime:
Imagine positive distractions. When we focus on the fact that we can’t fall asleep, it becomes even harder to fall asleep. Try to use your imagination to go to a peaceful or safe place in your mind. Maybe this is walking along the beach, going to a place in nature that’s meaningful to you, or picturing a memory of a happy time with loved ones. Try to imagine this scene in as much detail as possible. What do you see, hear, smell, feel, taste?
Allow worry thoughts. Sometimes, if we can label worries as “thoughts,” they lose some of their power. As your mind fixates on different phrases, images, or thoughts, mentally say to yourself “this is a worry thought.” Take an observational stance on what your mind is doing. Imagine putting each thought on a bird that is flying in the sky, or on a leaf that’s floating down a river. Watch the worries come and go.
Ground yourself in the present. Anxiety loves to pull us into the future, causing us to imagine worst-case scenarios of what’s coming. One antidote is to do something that brings our attention to the present moment. This could mean practicing mindfulness of breath for a few minutes, planting our feet on the floor, repeating a positive mantra to ourselves, or doing a body scan to notice what we’re experiencing in our bodies.
Practice gratitude. Another way to bring ourselves away from worry thoughts and boost our mood is by thinking about what we’re grateful for. What’s something you’re looking forward to? What was the best part of today? Is there a person who had a positive impact on you recently? Falling asleep becomes more pleasant when we are filled with a sense of gratitude.
References
“What To Do When Worry Keeps You Awake.” Retrieved from https://www.mindful.org/what-to-do-when-worry-keeps-you-awake/