Protecting Your Energy

And just like that: the year is almost over… December 21st marks Winter Solstice this year. It’s when yang energy is at its lowest and when yin energy is at its highest. These are the longest, darkest, and coolest days of the season, meaning extra hours of darkness to repair, reflect, and rejuvenate.

Winter is ruled by the water element and the emotion of fear. Water is the most nourishing element, and it is essential for life. Typically this time of year, we tend to feel over-worked and are sleep deprived. Since the water element stores our energy reserves, a lack of rest will deplete this element and the kidneys, winter’s yin organ. This is why protecting our energy and resting is so crucial in the winter… for empaths and HSP’s (Highly Sensitive People), it can be especially difficult to speak up or set boundaries.

What are some ways I can protect my energy this winter and holiday season?

  • Imagine a beautiful, white bubble around you… Envision it protecting you from any low vibrations (people’s negative thoughts, actions, or beliefs). Do as needed.

  • A technique to start (or end) your day with… When you’re in the shower, visualize the water as white crystalline energy cleansing your body, as well as your energetic body. Visualize the soap cleansing you of any energy that isn’t for your highest good. Then, visualize the soap (the negative energy) washing down the drain.

  • Ground yourself… Visualize big tree roots at the bottom of your feet going all the way to the core of the earth, which is the center of the earth.  Being in nature will help ground you s well (being by the water, playing in the garden, sitting under a tree). Energy is all intent… Try just simply saying “Please ground me now. Thank you.”

  • Set an intention for your day when you wake up in the morning…When you start off with positive intentions you are bringing in positive energy to start your day in a more meaningful way.

How can I stay present when experiencing irrational fears?

  • Stop and breathe... Step back from the situation to allow your emotions to get out of your way. Ask yourself, “what is really happening?” When we get our emotions out of the way, we gain more clarity of the situation that we are fearing. Look at it from an observer’s point of view, then ask yourself if the fear you’re experiencing will matter in a year from now? What about six months from now? Or even a month from now?

    If the worst happens (which isn’t often), we must trust that we will somehow handle it. It’s the fear of not knowing how to handle things which amplifies this intense feeling. Look back at something you once feared… You most likely were able to handle it better than you ever thought you could.

I’m an empath or an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). How can I handle the heaviness of the world?

  • Try a “shielding” visualization… Shielding is a quick way to protect yourself. Many empaths and sensitive people rely on it to block out toxic energy while allowing the free flow of positive energy. Begin by taking a few deep, long breaths. Then, visualize a beautiful shield of white or pink light completely surrounding your body and extending a few inches beyond it.

  • Define and express your relationship needs… Knowing your needs and being able to assert them is a strong form of self-protection for empaths. Finding your voice is equivalent to finding your power – otherwise you may become exhausted, anxious, or feel like a doormat in relationships where your basic needs are unmet. Your partner isn’t a mind reader – speak up to safeguard your well-being.

  • Prevent empathy overload… When you’re absorbing the stress or symptoms of others, it’s important to find an outlet to release the negative energy. Try inhaling lavender essential oil or put a few drops midway between your eyebrows (on your third eye) to calm yourself. When you can, spend time in nature. Balance your alone time with social time. Time management is key for empaths… Try not to plan too many things in one day. aIt’s ok to cancel plans when you get overloaded. This is a skill all empaths must learn so that you don’t feel obliged to go out if you are tired and need to rest.

  • The “Jaguar Protection Meditation”… When you need extra protection, we recommend using this meditation to call on the power of the jaguar to protect you. The jaguar is a fierce and patient guard who can keep toxic energy and people away. This type of meditation is useful when there is too much negativity coming at you too quickly. Picture what the jaguar looks like: their fierce, loving eyes; their sleek body; the graceful, yet purposeful way the jaguar moves. Envision yourself feeling secure in the circle of the jaguar’s protection.

Gift Ideas to Help Avoid the Holiday Shopping Frenzy

December is often a season of gift-giving, as many families celebrate holidays like Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, the Winter Solstice, and New Year’s Eve. Most of us probably enjoy giving someone a gift they really love, or being gifted something that makes us smile, but do you ever feel uncomfortable about the frenzy associated with buying gifts during the holidays? Holiday shopping can turn into an expensive, competitive activity that sometimes feels more stressful than meaningful. There can also be a lot of disappointment that results from spending a lot of money on a gift that will go unused or unappreciated by the recipient. 

As with most things that make us feel stressed, we can slow down by bringing some mindfulness and awareness to our gift-giving practices, which will hopefully lead to us feeling more satisfied and intentional with the way we exchange gifts during the holidays. Here are a few ideas of ways to bring more joy into your holiday shopping and gift-giving traditions:

  • Give an Experience. For people who don’t need more stuff (which is probably many of us), think about giving them an experience instead of a material object. This could be a cooking class, a gift card to a rock-climbing gym, tickets to a concert or the symphony, or even a membership to something like the MKE Film Festival. Not only will the person enjoy their new experience, they will think of you while doing it. For a budget-friendly route, make your own gift card for items you can provide, like a 30-minute back rub, a hike together at a local park, or a home cooked meal on a date of their choosing. 

  • Go the DIY route. If you are a crafty person, by all means share your talents with loved ones by knitting them a hat, making them a piece of art, building them a side table, welding them a piece of jewelry, etc. Let your creativity run wild! For others who don’t identify as artists, don’t underestimate your cooking skills. Gifts like a fresh loaf of bread, a tin of cookies, or a jar of homemade jam or pickles will be greatly appreciated!

  • Buy Practical Items. Ask the person what they may need. Is this person going off to college soon or moving into a new apartment in the spring? You could help them buy some of the necessities they would otherwise purchase on their own. A cool pair of socks or a cozy scarf will likely get utilized and appreciated. If the person spends a lot of time in the kitchen, see if they are in need of any cooking utensils or tools. 

  • Donate to others in need. In place of gift exchanges, some families spend time together during the holidays doing volunteer work. While serving a meal to families in your community, you will give the gift of service and compassion. Maybe there are opportunities to volunteer an afternoon reading to children or the elderly in various hospitals or local organizations. You could also consider donating gifts to a church or agency who then gives them to families in challenging financial situations. 

However you decide to give gifts this season, be mindful of your purpose in doing so. Gift-giving is a way to show others we care and are thinking of them, and often we can convey this through small gestures. For many of us, simply being around friends and loved ones feels like a gift. Remember to stay grounded in the weeks ahead and try to avoid getting swept up in the holiday shopping frenzy. 

References

Acaroglu, L. (2017). 5 Ways to Disrupt Holiday Consumerism. Retrieved from https://medium.com/disruptive-design/5-ways-to-disrupt-holiday-consumerism-33fae672311f