Life can be so beautiful and rewarding, and at the same time stressful and full of pain. Whether you face mental health struggles like anxiety or depression, have experienced trauma, or want to find new ways to calm yourself down during stressful situations, self-soothing could greatly benefit you. Self-soothing is a deeply personal art that requires practice and willingness. It is deeply personal in that what works for one person to self-soothe might not work for you. It is an art in the sense that you may need to get creative with ways you practice self-soothing, trying to give yourself what you most need to regain calm in various situations. Like any new skill, learning self-soothing will take some time and practice. Try to make a commitment to stick with it until you start to experience the benefits, which you might notice in your heart, mind, and/or body. The goal of self-soothing is to do something that helps you slow down and reconnect with yourself in the present moment.

Self-soothing can take on whatever form is most effective for you. Sometimes this might mean paying attention to the sensation of your breath and other times it might mean reading a passage from an inspirational book. We suggest you explore options for self-soothing within the categories of your five senses: hearing, sight, smell, taste, touch. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

Hearing

Listen to music you enjoy
Go outside and notice as many nature sounds as you can (birds chirping, wind gusting, animals rustling)
Have a conversation with someone and focus on their words and sound of their voice
Listen to your kids playing or a baby babbling

Sight

Walk along the lake or on a trail and notice everything in the environment
Wake up early to see a sunset or look outside during sunset
Buy flowers and put them in a vase on your desk or table
Light a candle and watch the flickering flame
Look at photographs

Smell

Notice the smells of food being cooked at home or in a restaurant
Get a cup of coffee, tea, or hot chocolate and take in the aroma
Diffuse essential oils
Bake something and notice the scent as you open the oven

Taste

Treat yourself to one of your favorite foods and savor each bite
Chew a piece of gum or suck on a mint
Have a small piece of chocolate
Drink something cool or hot, noticing the temperature on your tongue

Touch

Take a warm bath
Wrap up in a cozy blanket
Pet your dog, cat, or other furry friend
Float or swim in a pool, noticing the feeling of the water around you

As you practice self-soothing, try to bring an awareness to any changes you notice in your body, any decrease or increase of emotions, and any shifts in how you are thinking about yourself or the situation at hand. This practice can be a powerful way to ground yourself when you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed out, and investing time in self-soothing is a great way to take care of yourself with gentleness and compassion.

References

“A Therapist’s Journey: Learning the Art of Self-Soothing.” Retrieved from https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/June-2018/A-Therapist-s-Journey-Learning-the-Art-of-Self-So

“Self-Soothe.” Retrieved from https://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/self-sooth.html

You’ve probably heard about the benefits of introducing a mindfulness practice into your life. It has been shown to reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, increase self-compassion and acceptance, improve mood and cognitive functioning, and help tune out distractions. Many people picture mindfulness as a meditation practice that requires us to sit down with our legs crossed and focus on our breath for a long period of time. In reality, mindfulness can take shape in a myriad of ways, and you can try different practices until you find one that works for you.

We suggest the following mindfulness practices you can easily implement and enjoy in a variety of settings:

Mindfully eat a raisin or piece of chocolate. Sit down and hold the raisin or chocolate in your hand. Study the texture, feel the weight in your hand, give it a smell. Put the raisin or chocolate in your mouth and let it sit on your tongue. Feel the texture of the item against your tongue or roof of mouth. Start to taste the flavor. Are any memories or images coming to mind? Slowly chew on the raisin or chocolate, being mindful of each sensation. After chewing and swallowing, pause and take a moment to notice where your mind is at and how you’re feeling.
Think of five things you are grateful for. Pause for a few minutes and either write or mentally consider five things you are grateful for. Allow any images, thoughts, or emotions to rise up and just notice them. Sometimes by slowing down and reflecting on what matters to us, we can become reconnected to the present moment.
Use your five senses. Locate 5 things you can see, 4 sounds you hear, 3 smells that cross your nose, 2 things you can touch, and 1 thing you can taste. Bring your awareness to any judgment thoughts that arise, and label them as “thoughts.”
Dance! Put on a favorite song and let yourself fully enjoy the sensations of dancing. Go “all in” and embrace the feeling of moving your body without fear of being judged. Sing along if you know the lyrics, and notice how it feels to engage in this one activity at this one moment in time.

References

Cho, J. (2016). 6 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Mindfulness and Meditation. Retrieved from https://www.forbes.com/sites/jeenacho/2016/07/14/10-scientifically-proven-benefits-of-mindfulness-and-meditation/#25c2d94063ce.